I just watched a malaysian movie.. I think it's called '天天天晴＇。
a very nice movie that touch my heart..
Few key phrases that i really appreciate:
1) 一家人好坏都要讲，一起想办法。
this sentence pierce through my heart quite badly cos it really applies to me.. I know my mother said some stuff that hurt my dear deeply but she also treat him like a son that's why she might had been harsh and her intentions misread.. She just wanted the best for us.. Just like how we would want the best for our daughter..
I know i made some comments abt his uncle but it's also for everyone's good. U think i like to criticize meh? The impression that he gives from his attire to his looks just shows how he has been treated by us. What would neighbours think? That we don't even buy clothes for him, fix his teeth, get a pair of specs for him? Neighbours+relatives would easily say, wah, son married with wife + kid, have car but never even take care of elderly.. he might say nevermind lah, but u never know what pple say behind your back.
I know i'm not a very good wife/daughter/mother cos i dunno how to help reduce stress for my dear, to take care of my mother and to take care of my daughter..
If i don tell you, u say i keep to myself.
When i tell you, u say i think too much.
When i remind you, u say i make u stress.
I know it's not easy to convince a person to change.. But certain habits have to change for our daughter's good. How would u feel if u hear things from ur daughter in future like: 'go toilet no need close door one, ah gu always do that, so i follow', 'wear tattered and torn clothes that reveal here and there ok ah, daddy also like tat', 'daddy and ah gu also use bad words, why i cannot?'
my heart wrench at such thoughts...
When i try to suggest a change, u say i do meaningless thing.
When i do a change myself, u say i waste time.
I don mean to a freak or what, but i want a family.. A NORMAL family..
My mother selflessly volunteered to help look after my daughter when i go back work cos she knew i needed her help. Suddenly feel that i've been a very bad daughter all these while.. Being defiant to her words, always goin home late, etc...
Why i always want to go out and not stay in the house? Cos i want to help resolve the issues at home, but i always hit the wall.. All becos of 'don waste lah', 'nevermind lah'.. Becos of these 2 phrases, problems build up day by day..
We are an average income family.. Why must behave like a dirt poor family?
2) 孩子：人可以活几年？
妈：大概七，八十年。
孩子：如果只有新年见阿公一次，那不只有十次？
this simple dialogue just triggered my tear ducts...
My dad went to shanghai to work, and i could only see him a few times a year only..
Now that i'm married, i see my parents less..
Now that i'm a mother, i will see my parents even less cos.. My dear don like me to stay too long at my ma's hse.. All becos of a genetic/traditional thought... －回娘家是不好的。
I suddenly miss my parents, my siblings...
Before i got married.. I always nag at my mother, no need to wait up for me, don cook for me, no need to cover blanket for me, etc.. Cos i always feel that she do unneccessary stuff..
But now i finally understand her actions after being a mother/wife.. Cos i'm doing the same.. I wake up occassionally to check if my daughter+dear has their beanie/blanket, wind the blinds down to block the sunrays, endure being kicked at night..
Now i finally understand what is mother's/wife's love is all about...
爱就是默默的付出，而不要求回报。
爱就是把别人的快乐建立在自己的痛苦上。
爱就是希望一家人舒服快乐的活在一起，而不是让家人感到心酸痛苦。
